Thinking Out Loud - Ms. Green

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Thursday, May 24, 2007

Where Have all the Real Women Gone?

I’ve heard it said often – Where have all the real men gone?

Well, for one thing, they’ve been redefined, repackaged, indoctrinated, and feminized by the world. They’ve all been encouraged to get in touch with their “feminine side” but discouraged not to heed to their “masculine side”. White males have fared the worse. They’ve been beaten down by a culture that glorifies women who aren’t feminine and men who are.

Fortunately there are still men who are real men, but they don’t make the news. They go about their daily lives, working hard, loving their wives and kids, serving God, and fellowshipping with other real men who haven’t lost touch with who they are – who God made them to be.

But again, I ask, where have all the real women gone? I see plenty of females running around, but they’ve lowered themselves to new levels. They dress like hookers. In normal conversation, they use words that would have made grandma cringe. They scowl at men who would dare to open a door for them. They pursue sexual encounters with the fervor of a teenaged boy and they’ve abandoned the mothering instinct for their children and replaced it with a “let ‘em be kids” mentality that boils down to a destructive permissiveness that is producing a narcissistic generation that will only lead to a further decay of society as we know it.

I was walking into a grocery store the other day and dared to let my eyes meet the eye of one of several girls out on the prowl at the local shopping center. The one with jet black hair and a bright red streak running down the middle of it, with body piercings in more places than I cared to see, and with her stomach hanging slightly over the edge of her too-tight low cut jeans promptly gave me the finger and mouthed the corresponding curseword at me because she evidently didn’t like it that I glanced her way. I smiled in a somewhat condescending way and went right by, but my heart sank. She couldn’t have been more than 16 years old. What does the future hold for her? I wondered if sex had already become so familiar to her as to be boring. Does she look at herself in the mirror at home and like what she sees? What does she dream about as far as her future is concerned?

God’s plan for man and wife is perfect. Submission is actually a freeing concept. The attention and care I receive in return far outweighs any negatives. God holds my husband responsible for our family – not me. I respect and love my husband and treat him so. I recognize him as the final authority in our relationship and in our family. In return, he treats me with love and care, and puts me on a pedestal I don’t deserve – opening doors for me, putting my wants ahead of his own, treating me as the weaker vessel, and showering me with love and attention. Any woman who wouldn’t want that needs her head examined.

I respect myself and try to live as God would have me to live. I pity the women I see who have no respect for themselves and who show, through their appearance and actions, that they think their only worth is sexual. What a sad future they are setting themselves up for. And it will probably be a lonely one as well.

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At 11:37 PM, Anonymous J. Shows said...


You are so right. There was a time when I was like that young girl. Someone would look at me and I would flip them off. I got married and had the mentality of 'Ain't no man gonna tell me what to do'. And then, our wonderful saviour entered my life at the age of 19. A little at a time God softened my heart. I began to see the role my husband was supposed to have and began to step down and let him be a man. It was so totally freeing. I was so wrong about how it would limit who I am. I love the freedom and security that I feel now. Also, I have alot less on my shoulders and a more calm spirit. Hopefully, the young lady you were speaking about will allow God into her life and He can turn her around, as well.

At 1:49 PM, Blogger nanc said...

this is a sad commentary to the times in which we live. will it get better? not until our Messiah comes again, i fear.

At 2:54 PM, Blogger Ms.Green said...

Mrs. Shows, I'm really happy that God turned you around. You would have been a very sad and probably bitter old woman someday if that hadn't happened. Thanks for sharing your testimony.

At 2:56 PM, Blogger Ms.Green said...

nanc, I think we have to hope and pray that we can somehow reach at least some of this generation for Christ. I hate to think of this world and the US falling off totally into apostasy and unbelief. What a wretched world this is going to be after the rapture...

At 3:19 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ms. Green,

You are so sad about me becoming a sad, bitter old lady. Truthfully, I was already there. Sometimes it amazes me what sin can do to your life, but I am amazed even more by what God can do to a sin-ravished life. See you tomorrow!

Ms. Shows

At 3:21 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oops, I meant that you are so right, not so sad! Sorry!

At 10:22 AM, Blogger Mark said...

It is indeed sad that Ms Green is so right. And I have the same question? Where have the real women gone? For the answer to that, I believe you wil have to look to modern society and culture. Sometimes progress is no progress at all.

At 10:38 PM, Blogger Ms.Green said...

Mark, you are right. What is called progress is sometimes just the opposite. Take the women's lib movement. That has done more harm than good. It has actually hurt women more than they've been helped, because it has lied to them about men, about childbearing, about marriage, and about having fulfilling lives.

At 1:36 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I fit your definition of a "real woman," I guess.... Feminism did exactly one thing right: it got women to be educated and productive members of our society. We don't need to cut off half of our intellectual talent because men want to be in charge.

It surprised me to hear you say that your husband returns your affection and caring. In my experience (sad as it is), men have no desire to return the love that is shown to them - it becomes an exercise in giving with receiving absolutely nothing in return. It seems as if I'm given the choice of being the person I want to be or being realistic.

At 1:57 PM, Blogger momlovesbeingathome said...

Wow! What a great post! I am a full time wife and mother and I wouldn't have it any other way. I love being home and taking care of my family. I was raised in a home without a father so it was very hard for me to learn submissiveness (because I'd never witnessed that before) and to give up the control but since I've been working on that my marriage and my life have been so much happier!

I just came over from Neil's blog and the link he gave. I'm anxious to look around your blog. :)

At 7:11 PM, Blogger Ms.Green said...

Anonymous said: "In my experience (sad as it is), men have no desire to return the love that is shown to them - it becomes an exercise in giving with receiving absolutely nothing in return.

The secret is this. The lost world is very narcissistic in general. A Christian man who is surrendered to the Lord is a man who understands that yes, women are commanded to submit themselves to their husbands - but husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it. In the big picture, theirs is a greater responsibility than ours. My husband is the love of my life and the king of my home. He is the head and I recognize him as such. And he treats me as his queen and as his equal.

If you are looking for a man like this, you need to seek God first and get saved. Then ask God to send you a Godly man into your life.

The world has no idea how great being a Christian really is.

At 7:13 PM, Blogger Ms.Green said...

Mom- thanks for stopping by. I found your profile, but no blog?

At 1:41 PM, Anonymous momlovesbeingathome said...

Hmmm... I'm not sure what happened to my link. I have a wordpress blog. I think I've fixed it though!


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