Letting Go

Sometimes, when you care about someone, and you see them self-destructing, you want to do something, but you aren't sure what. The familiarity of the relationship will often hinder anything contructive you might want to say or do to try to help them see what they are doing to themselves. It can be very painful. They are in pain, so they cause pain. You want to help, but they may not want help right now.

When the situation comes to a head, and a heated conversation takes place, sometimes that's the best time to back off and say, "You know what? You need to go this alone. You aren't where you need to be, and you don't want my help, so it's time for me to back out of this relationship for a while."

At that point, they might say "forget you" and break off the relationship- claiming you've seen the last of them. What they forget though, is that God is in control. He's never NOT in control. Even when He allows us to screw things up, it's because He ALLOWS it - NOT because He's not in control.

The best thing to do at this point is to turn to your Father and give the whole situation to Him. He can handle it. Not only can He handle it, but He can control it in any way He chooses. What better hands to put them in than His?

Still hurts though.